“Modern Mom” What Does This Mean In Today’s World?

“Modern Mom” what does this mean in today’s world?

As Regine King says, “A Modern Mom to me is not always someone that juggles a career and family. A Modern Mom is a woman who takes care of herself on the inside and the outside.”

For me, an integral part of who I am as a Modern Mom is being a Working Mom.

When I was growing up, my Mom was a single mom who provided everything for me and my two sisters. She was an executive, but still found time to take us girls to soccer, our music lessons and also made time to help us with our school projects. She was my 1980’s version of a “Modern Mom.” It only took me twenty-ish years to figure this out.

For me, having a career wasn’t ever a question of if but rather a question of when. There were some bumps in the road, but I finally made it. I became a career woman.

But first…I became a Mom.

With my older two boys, I stayed home while working on my degree. During this time, thinking about having a tiny baby at daycare wasn’t something that ever crossed my mind. Then my life changed; I became a single mom. I thought my baby days were over. Then I met him; the man who made the desire to have another child a thing... love has a funny way of changing someone’s way of thinking. But I was a career woman now. How would I do everything I did for my older two for my youngest?! A flood of emotions set in. How would I breastfeed? How would I cloth diaper? How would I bond with my youngest child if I’m not always home to be with him? All these “how’s” ran through my mind.

Then you all happened. My online community of awesome mama friends. Where would I be without you all? Little by little, my pregnant self put together a game plan. A “I’m going to work and rock this having an infant thing like a boss” plan.

Today, I’m going to share with you how I made all the comforts of home a reality at daycare:

When I was pregnant with my third, I worried about being the Mom I wanted to be; the Mom I was to my older boys…but this time, this time I worked. I knew I wanted him to have the things I’d give and do for him if I was a stay at home mom.

Using cloth in daycare sounded a bit daunting. Where would the poop go? Where do they store diapers? Would the teachers ruin my precious cloth? Would I have to buy special clothing to fit over his diapers? So many questions went through my mind. Luckily we live in Modern times and using cloth at daycare is easy and you don’t need funky, custom made clothes to go over your cloth.

Planning ahead is essential when you’re a Working Mom; Sunday nights and Netflix for the win!

Each weekday, I get off work, drive to get the kids, eat dinner, go to soccer and come home to put the boys to bed. The last thing I want to do after they’re all down is pack for the next day. This is when Sunday nights and Netflix come to the rescue. Every Monday morning, our youngest needs to head to daycare with all the comforts of home:

1. Diaper Bag

With older kiddos in sports, we don’t always have a chance to go straight home so we need a diaper bag big enough to hold all the comforts of home for both daycare and afterschool activities. There’s no better bag to hold everything we may need than a Ju-Ju-Be Be Prepared filled with a change of clothes, CJs Butter Quick Stick diaper cream, hand sanitizer, changing pad, extra sippy cup, snacks, toys, EZPZ mat etc.


2. Cloth Diapers

The first thing I needed to do was find a cloth diaper anyone and everyone could use with little to no instructions. We first started with one brand, but as soon as we found Lighthouse Kids diapers, they instantly became our go-to Daycare diaper. Lighthouse Kids diapers have a simple yet brilliant design that has set us up for successful cloth diapering fulltime; both home and away.

As a Working Mom, you want your child to have a bond with their teacher. You want your child to be cared for by the same person each day, but sometimes teachers get sick or go out of town. Our cloth diapering family needs to be as best prepared for this as possible. This is why Lighthouse Diapers are a perfect fit for our needs. We needed a diaper absorbent enough to withstand our heavy wetter yet easy enough to use for even the most novice of a cloth diaper caregiver.

3. Wet bags

Wet bags, how can we forget wet bags? I used to send 2 we tbags each day; one for pee diapers and one for poo diapers. I’m not a fan of fishing out the diapers that are needing to be sprayed so a second wet bag was a must. But not anymore. The Lighthouse wet bag is all we need. We send a Lighthouse wet bag full of clean diapers each day. These diapers go onto a shelf and the wet bag gets hung on a hook. The bag is filled back up as diapers get soiled; pee diapers in the main pocket and poo diapers in the front pocket. Turn the bag inside out in the wash and you’re good to go for the next use.

4. Cloth Wipes

If I’m going to be spraying diapers when I get home, why not spray wipes too? Not only are we saving money, but we’re adding one less item into a landfill. When it comes to adding non-traditional things into a daycare kiddo’s routine, simple is best.

We send a week’s worth of wet and ready-to-use cloth wipes every Monday. This mimics the ease of grabbing a ready-to-use disposable wipe. There are numerous cloth wipe options out there, but we’ve found Grovia wipes to be high quality for an affordable price.


5. Nap Blanket and stuffed animal

Consistency and routine are essential to any child. Being able to wash a blanket and stuffed animal over and over again while still looking brand new is a must for anything to survive daycare usage. Our little guy snuggles and loves on both his most important comforts from home; his blanket and his Inky.

Tula blankets provide a natural fiber, lightweight and breathable option so our son feels comfortable while napping and we have the assurance of knowing he’ll have the same blanket to use for naps for a long time to come.

Jellycat stuffed animal are of the highest quality and can be used and abused while still looking brand new. This little octopus goes everywhere our little one goes. A quick ninja move or two while he’s sleeping plus a mesh bag is all that’s needed to keep this comfort from home good to go.

Being a Working Mom doesn’t mean you have to give up parenting the way you want to parent. Cloth diapers and daycare can go together. All those “How’s” slowly become “How To’s.”


Shelby H. is a Working Mom to 3 rambunctious boys and a college aged step-daughter. When she’s not rocking this Momming thing or working as Accountant, you’ll find her and her family on a soccer field!

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